In this class we will discuss same sex marriage, and whether or not gay and lesbian couples should have the same rights when it comes to marriage as everyone else. For this week’s blog, I would like to expand on that issue and discuss same sex adoptions.
Efforts to ban gay and lesbian couples from adoption are heating up all across America. Florida has banned same sex adoptions since 1977. In Mississippi, gay singles can adopt but gay couples can not. In Utah, all un-married couples are banned from adoption. Currently, sixteen additional states are considering bans of same sex adoptions, including Indiana.
Opponents of same sex adoptions, often say that children being raised with same-sex parents will have psychological issues, be bullied or teased at school, have unclear gender role models and perhaps even become gay or lesbian themselves.
Supporters of same sex adoptions include the National Adoption Center, the American Medical Association, the American Psychological Association and the American Pediatrics, all of which state that adoptions by gay or lesbian couples do not negatively affect children.
The issue of same sex adoption is one that inspires debate across America and will probably be left up to the courts to decide, however one thing is clear: we all want what is best for our children. So my question to you this week is, “What do you think of same sex adoptions? Why do you feel the way you do?” Answers are due by Sunday, April 19th.
I really not sure how I feel about it, I have gay friends and they seem pretty cool, I don't really see why they shouldn't be able to adopt a kid. I am sure they would treat the kid the same as other parents would. But I think it maybe weird to the kid being adopted, to be brought into the same sex coulple family. I think it sould be up to the kid if he wants to be in a family of same sex marriage. So I am not exactly sure how I feel.
ReplyDeleteI believe children need loving parents who will lead and guide them to their best ability. I cannot say if gay or lesbian couples can do so or not. I believe for the most part they could I just have a question about how would they answer the questions that children have would they give them both answers or would they answer it in the way were the child would think they should only be looking at individuals in their sex. As a parent my sexual orientation has nothing to do with how I am as a mother but it does have a lot to do with how I would answer my son’s questions when they arise. With that being said I am not sure rather they should or not I do believe it could confuse the child (ren) a great deal for several reasons as they get older if everything isn't carefully explained. Meaning that if they decide to be heterosexual they might be afraid or ashamed to say or show it because they don't want to disappoint their parents just as gay or lesbians feel when they first gain insight on this is the route they want to take.
ReplyDeleteI feel like a person is a person no matter gay or straight.(Kind of like off Horton hears a Who, "A persons a person no matter how small.") If they want to adopt a child or children (since they can't reproduce together) then they should. It isn't like they have diseases or something. I also think when children have gay parents they learn how the world is at a young age so most likely they will try their best and succeed or maybe just not give a whoot. Also gay couples may not mind that their child isnt a baby and will adopt the older ones.(but I don't know)
ReplyDeleteThis is a very tough question to answer because I'm all for same-sex marriage but when you talk about adoption.. I'm really at a loss for words. I do believe that all individuals should have the right to be equal but in some cases I don't agree that the children should have to suffer through all of the bullying. I believe that if we lived in a more open-minded/accepting country this question wouldn't be such a tough one to answer. But, I also agree with "love is love" no matter what sex the couple may be. I just have so many different views on this issue, so I really can't say yes or no.. we live in a very judgemental world so would it be the best decision? who knows...
ReplyDeleteI support gay marriages but I do not support same-sex adoptions. I believe children should be raised by a mother and a father. The two most loving men cannot be a true role model for their little girl and vise versa for women. I believe it could hurt the children mentally, especially in school. It would be hard to explain to the classmates why they are not celebrating Mother or Fathers Day. Love alone will not guarantee a healthy relationship between two mothers, two fathers, and a child.
ReplyDeleteI believe that just because two people that are of the same sex, and are partners for life, they should be able to adopt. Hell, just because they are gay doesn't mean that they will be bad parents! Some male and female couples are horrible parents. I am for same sex marriages and adoptions. Gay couples have just as much love for children as male and female couples. Who are we to say who people should or shouldn't love.
ReplyDeleteI don't necessarily think that gay adoption is a bad thing, because if it came down to the child having a loving home, jumping from house to house, or being back on the streets, I would like for them to have a loving home where they would have a more stable environment. If the couple is prepared to take on the lifetime responsibility in raising a child, let them have that chance.
ReplyDeleteI am for gay marriages and adoptions. I think that there are so many children that are growing up in foster homes and shelters due to parents giving their child up for adoption. Many heterosexual couples want to produce their own children, so that leaves these babies that were given up for adoption to be stuck in these homes with no real parents. If there are two stable people who love each other, and ultimately want a child to love, nurture, and take care the child, then isn’t it better for the child to be raised by the gay couple then to have no parents at all? I also think it is better to have two parents, whether they be gay or not, then to have one parent to help raise a child. I also think that who are we to tell two loving people that they are not allowed to adopt a child because of their choice of who they love.
ReplyDeleteMy feelings on same sex marriage is that they should be able to have a kid just like everyone else. I think that it is crazy to say that just because they are raised by a gay couple that they will turn out gay. Also i think that an adopted kid would have a much better life in a family gay or striaght then to continue living as an orphan. The only side of it that i would partially agree on is that the kid would probably get made fun of while he is young, but who doesn't get picked on for something when they are little. Should we not allow fat parents to have kids because they inturn will end up fat.. no that would be crazy.
ReplyDeletei thank that gay adoptions are wrong, because when every child is born it has the right to one father and one mother not two of the same. when this happens it all falls back on the child for the fact the kid has to take all the wrap because the child's parents are gay. i also thank if your gay and wont kids you should try to do it the way it was ment to be
ReplyDeleteI do believe all children need a home with loving parents but I don't believe in same sex adoption. I believe married or single people should adopt. The reason I believe this way is because of my religious background. I will never mistreat a gay or lesbian person, I just don't believe in the relationships.
ReplyDeleteI believe same sex couples should definitely be allowed to adopt children. The state or government has no right to interfere with a couple's choice to start a family. Children all over the world are suffering in orphanages, so why shouldn't they be given a home with loving parents?
ReplyDeleteMs. James, I am sorry about the late responce to the blog this week. My laptop bit the dust, and I had to do the response from school this week.
ReplyDeleteI believe that same sex couples should be allowed to adopt, or conceive a child through a surraget mother or father if they wish to do so. Many children grow up in a family where their mother and father are not in love, and they are effected by this relationship. If a same sex couple chooses to adopt a child, they would have made the conscious effort to do so. There are no unplanned pregnancies in a same sex relationship, and this would offer a loving caring relationship for the child to grow up in. Broken homes are no place for a child to grow and learn in, and this is the common situation in our world, unfortunatly
I think same sex adoption is not healthy for the individuals as well as the children. I say that for one reason only, I country was founded on Christian principles, based on the infallible word of the living God. I am not saying that the individuals cannot love the children, but I am saying that it is disrespectful to God - our creator.
ReplyDeleteI feel this way about same sex adoptions because it is misleading and it totally goes against the design God has originally made in the beginning for all he has created to follow. Thank you Shannon Sellars
I do not agree with same sex adoption. A child is created between a man and a woman and that is the way it should be.
ReplyDeleteI feel that it should not be the decision of the state wheather they are gay or not. The homosexuals should have the same rights as a hedrosexual has. That is one of the most admired things about or country, you have the right to choose your partner in life.
ReplyDeletei am not sure whether i agree with same sex adoption or not. on one hand i think that a baby can only be created between a man and a woman and that is the way it should stay. but on the other hand i think that there is not a single child who would rather be raised in a foster home than in a loving and caring family. but i am also concerned that for the well being of chldren, because i feel that they may grow up being confused about gender identity and have other psychological issues. i was curious about why the american psychological association supports this issue so i went to this website and they had this to say: "This seven-member team of psychologists with a combination of both scientific expertise in family and couple relations and professional expertise with lesbian, gay, and bisexual populations summarized the research that discrimination and prejudice based on sexual orientation detrimentally affects the psychological, physical, social and economic well-being of lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals, that same-sex couples are remarkably similar to heterosexual couples, and that parenting effectiveness and the adjustment, development and psychological well-being of children is unrelated to parental sexual orientation." i would like to see more research supporting this statement and find out how they actually came to this conclusion before i can make a final decision.
ReplyDeletei dont know how i feel about sam sex adoptions. i feel like the child would get teased and bullied but i feel like a child would rather grow up with loving parents then in and out of foster homes where they feel abandoned and wronged. i really cant decide on one side or the other i dont really think it is that big of a deal because kids are going to be bullied and teased no matter what
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